From the April 2013 Parent Magazine Issue
10 Discipline Don’ts…by David Sparrow
- Yell – Your screaming has zero effect on behavior (other than to teach your child that it’s okay for him to lose it too).
- Offer Empty Threats – If your child knows you won’t follow through, she won’t take you seriously.
- Undermine Your Partner – Openly disagreeing about discipline will confuse your kid and erode your authority.
- Fail To Set Rules – It’s not fair to punish a child for playing ball in the house if you didn’t tell him it was verboten beforehand.
- Bribe – Yeah, it works the first time, but eventually your child will expect a reward every single time you request her cooperation.
- Argue About Consequences – Your discipline methods are not up for discussion or negotiation…period.
- Compare – When you say , “Why can’t you be more like your sister?” the implication is that your child isn’t fine the way she is.
- Spank – Research shows that striking a child makes him more aggressive, not better-behaved.
- Cave In To Whining – Standing firm now will make it less likely you’ll hear that annoying voice the next time she wants something.
- Set A Bad Example – Need to scold your child fibbing? Fine. But don’t let him catch you canceling plans due to your own phantom illness.
Well, I don’t know about you, but if this was a test, I’d definitely would have failed. I do know one thing, for a first-time dad, my husband is taking all this to heart…It’s kind of a good thing around my house right now.
No one is perfect, and while these are all good points, I’m not sure about number 8. Our little one gets a swat when all else fails.
What do you think about this list? Pretty good? Maybe, no, yes, concerns?